Jocko Willink, former Navy SEAL and renowned podcast host, recently opened up about his past mistakes – in pushing his children too hard in Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu training.
He implemented mandatory daily training for his kids, believing it to be a cornerstone of their development.Willink often placed his children in competitions against older, heavier, and far more experienced opponents…
Convinced that such challenges would foster resilience and accelerate their progress…But instead, when kids would lose, it would make them feel totally different than what the expected result should have been:
You go, you enter the tournament, you get smashed, it’s not fun, you get defeated, you get humiliated…
The outcome of all this bad behavior by me was you (speaking to his daughter) and your sister and your brother were just like: “We don’t want to go.”
In the years since, Willink’s philosophy on training has undergone a significant transformation.He now advocates for a balanced approach that prioritizes enjoyment and measured challenges.
Willink also recognizes that most children don’t share the same intense passion for activities that adults may have:
Only about one in a hundred kids is naturally inclined towards intense competition.
To illustrate his point, Willink shared the story of a young student named Ethan.
Initially, Ethan disliked Jiu-Jitsu and resisted training between the ages of 5 and 8.However, at age 9, he found a genuine connection with the sport and quickly excelled:
He got really good really quick, and it wasn’t like his life was ruined because he didn’t train earlier.
In other words, Willink emphasized that the early “drive” isn’t necessary for future success.
Sloth Jiu-Jitsu: you can be slow and unathletic and still kick butt in Jiu-Jitsu.
